"I just know what I like"
I've heard this statement come in many forms, and I can picture in my head the people in my life who might be saying it. Often when a variation of this phrase is spoken, it is done so with pride. After all, good leaders can filter out the noise and make hard decisions -- a very worthwhile trait. However, these statements of confidence flow all too easily from the mouths of the self-absorbed.
"I know what I want" can often be confused with the reality of the situation -- sometimes the statement would be better phrased "I don't care what others want." The best leaders I've encountered have taken time to see the views, concerns, and opinions of those around them prior to making a big decision.
Don't get me wrong. You can't live life trying to please everyone, and you can't always put yourself last. I've been guilty of this. Inevitably you will stretch yourself too thin, and you will be left with little knowledge of who you really are because you've spent your life trying to be the person others want you to be. God made you to be the best version of your broken self, stuck in a crazy web of relationships with other messed up people.
This is just an exercise in "centered-ness." The next time you hear one of these statements come from your lips, and you are saying it about a decision that will affect other people, ask yourself a few questions:
- "Have I considered how my decisions are affecting the people I have influence over?"
- "Have I sought other's opinions on this issue?"
- "Is this the right decision, or the one the benefits me the best?"
Am I wrong? Tell me in the comments!
-BB
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